summer 2011

summer 2011

Paul and I, all 16 kids and Ashley, Benjamin's wife...Christmas 2012

Paul and I, all 16 kids and Ashley, Benjamin's wife...Christmas 2012
family

Monday, April 10, 2017

too much truth...

I'm learning, I really am....that sometimes it's wise not to say anything, when parenting teenagers. I said something I shouldn't have said to one darling daughter...truth, with no grace. Just because it's true, doesn't mean it has to be said.

Ah, the teen years. There is no one size fits all. There's no hard and fast rule. There's mostly this: if you feel you should say it, don't. Think about it first, and do NOT REACT. No matter what, do not just react to the following:
snarky comments
eye-rolling
answering back
loud exaggerated sighs

If something really needs saying, I'm telling you, it's better for everyone if you have thought it out, and are very calm. Because a hormonal teenager isn't really looking for a fight, but my goodness, it seems like they are, and if you fall into the trap, you are going to find it gets sparky, really quick.

So let out your own loud sigh, and pray for some wisdom before you open your mouth.

In other news, besides a recap of our fun and exciting weekend (Monster Truck, Paul's birthday (avocado mousse!), all the kids coming for a visit (well, 13 of them!!!) Today is a nice day! We are planning to spend it outside, as much as possible. I am heading out to the deck with my coffee in just a few minutes. Jonathan is doing math out there, Cam is looking for a mystery to solve, and Sunny just ate an entire stick of butter!

Cam is already asking to go get ice cream this afternoon, give us a 70 degree day, and we think it's summer here in central New York state. Yeah, I have my tank top on. Sunshine, yay!!!!

1 comment:

Marilyn Reid said...

You are lucky to get a nice day there.......it was snowing here this morning 😫 You're are right about biting your tongue with teenagers. Same could be said with husbands!! 😂 Sounds like fun having so many of your kids around. Enjoy your day in the sun!!

Marilyn from Canada