Am I missing something? Is this not the land of the free and the home of the brave? Why in the world would it be controversial how many children these people choose to have? What about 16 kids? Is that too many?
Is this too many? (this was taken when Suzanne, our 12th, was the baby)...in the very same front yard as....
This picture....was this too many? Seven? This picture is of me, and my brothers and sister:, Casey, me, Billy, Joey, Tommy, Bobby, and Cheryl....in front of the house we grew up in....were there too many of us? Who should decide, doctors? Uncle Sam?
Now it is time for dinner...ravioli and meatballs for sixteen.....
This picture....was this too many? Seven? This picture is of me, and my brothers and sister:, Casey, me, Billy, Joey, Tommy, Bobby, and Cheryl....in front of the house we grew up in....were there too many of us? Who should decide, doctors? Uncle Sam?
Now it is time for dinner...ravioli and meatballs for sixteen.....
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Okay so this is off topic but i LOVED seeing the pics you posted.
For me i dont think anyone should use the 'enough' when children are involved. Now obviously i havent read the article being in Aus but it makes me angry when people think they have a right to say how many kids you should and shouldnt have.
Todays society believes that things (debt) are a blessing and children are a burden, and i think when people talk about super sized families they are thinking about the burden they *must* be on them, (carbon footprint, welfare etc etc) most people turn a blind eye to the fact the the Duggars live debt free and do an awful lot help others. The Bates family have 17 and (i read) that even though they qualify for welfare they dont take it, but it seems to be an automatic assumption that if you have 'too many' kids then you must be using up all the worlds resources and thats why people can have an opinion on how many kids you 'shouldnt' have
Quite frankly people should mind their own business on how many kids people have . Its between them and God not them and the media and joe blow from down the street.
If more people raised their kids like the duggars, there is no doubt that the world would be a better place.
Whats also sad is that the reason Josie was born premature isnt due to the fact that she was baby 19 , it can happen to people who have had 1 or 2 babies. Its so sad that people are saying that this is their warning to stop. I personally hope she goes on to have more cute little Duggar babies !!
(okay so that is way more than i intended to write)
Cassandra xx
I know, who can even ask that question of anyone???? Remember the time I was walking into "Friendly's" Restaurant with a few of my adorable little darling girls, obviously expecting #?, and that friendly man said, "Ya, lady, that's all you need, another one!" I still can't believe I allowed him to hurt my feelings!! I should have tripped him, or something.. just kidding, I had trouble not losing my own balance, let alone causing someone else to lose theirs!!
Anyway, I love your pictures, and it's not like you are saying that everyone HAS to have as many kids as God chooses to send, they just need to mind their own..
PS.. we had meatballs with Italian bread for 11, and the bags totaled 22 servings.. we did have some left over..did you??
I keep trying to sit down and write a blog about this very subject. I am tired of people judging them based on how many kids they have. As long as they are taking care of their children and the kids are happy, who cares? Michelle delivered josie early because of pre-eclampsia and gall bladder problems. These conditions could happen in a woman in her first pregnancy or 20th! I get enough judgment and i'm only pregnant with #7! Of course, I am choosing to stop, but that is my decision. Who's to criticize if I did want more??? I have very strong opinions on this issue!
I only have two kids and I totally agree with you. It should be up to the parents. The Duggars are a lovely family who are self-sufficient. Why would anyone have a problem with how many children they have? There is a great line in the original "Yours, Mine and Ours," Frank, the Dad, says "Maybe having 19 kids is carrying it a bit too far, but if we had it to do over again--who would we skip?" If God had given me a body that would ovulate I would have had a baby year. Still praying for more, however they come to us.
PS--You used to read my other blog. This my new, more private, blog.
Personally I feel that "too many" is the point where you are unwilling to see each child as an individual, and care for that individual's needs individually. I know someone whose 7 kids are too much for her, yet she currently has additional foster children. And the way she reacts is by pretty much being abusive and expecting the oldest to be the sole caregiver for his siblings so she can take naps and watch movies and go on vacation. And the kids are miserable. So yeah, for her, she is IMO past "too many". But she does have the right to adopt more and foster more indefinitely.
Now you? I think you must be doing pretty well.
And me? I will hit menopause before I could ever have enough children to make strangers stop me and say rude things. But I long for a houseful of wonderful little people.
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I think the duggar's family size is THEIR business, as my family size is mine. And I live in France, where my taxes help people with larger families. And I am glad to help!! I think bigger families are a blessing to everyone. I was also shocked by some people commenting on the duggar having such a big family because it uses so much ressources, how rude and IGNORANT!! A family of 18 or 20 is using far less than a family of 4 or 3! transportation is almost always comparable to public transportation, sure the bus uses more gaz than a car, but the car has 5 persons at best when the bus pollutes twice as much at worst for 3 times more passengers at least!!
Same for bulk buying, food, space sharing etc.
Well obviously I'm biased.
I am very happy to learn that the Duggar's baby is getting better. It was scary to know she was born so small and so early but these were better news.
Now if they want more kids is their decision to make, I think a new baby is always good news.
Then God blessed them, and God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it;
Thank you for doing your part. I thought seven was a full quiver, but I rather like your larger one. :)
Also I have read somewhere this funny quote: " Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children is enough..."
I have never understood people that get upset about the size of other's families. If they were all living on welfare and foodstamps and free healthcare and not even trying to work jobs and provide for their own, that would be one thing. But moms with 2 kids do that so it's not about the number of children you have - its about your character as a parent.
In my opinon, if your raising children that are contributors to the society (or will be) you've done more for our contry than some who choose to have no children because they'd rather work a full career. There's nothing wrong with either having kids or not - some people choose not to (my sister in law) because they'd rather not. Some people choose to have a quiver full (my hubby and I). I believe the only place people have to get upset is if someone has children and doesn't train them. Be it one child or 10 children or even 20, that's their business.
In biblical times and currently in other countries (like Africa) a woman was/is measured by the number of children that God has blessed them with. My aunt and uncle are infertile and when they were in Africa as missionaries, it came to the point that they needed to adopt children so that my aunt barb would be taken seriously as a woman. She was not recognized as an adult until she and my uncle adopted their twins. (not the only reason they adopted them, they wanted kids!) In biblical times, women like Sarah (Abraham's wife) were outcast because they were viewed to have been cursed by God since they were barren. It's all society's opinion that molds people's view about all this nonsense. If the druggars and other big families lived in Africa instead of America, they would be viewed as highly blessed by God.
I think as a whole, there are alot of things that America has decided we do the "right" way and are too narrow-minded to realize that the 2-child home is not the only way, and is not neccesarily right or wrong. In a country that prides itself in so much freedom, many of us are awfully hypocrytical in our judgements.
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